tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5805517514331147214.post4300080494319827803..comments2023-03-24T09:26:01.344-05:00Comments on Redheaded Tomes: Social-ismKristi Ostlerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08073529078605648826noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5805517514331147214.post-78361388333871212092008-12-17T10:20:00.000-06:002008-12-17T10:20:00.000-06:00It took a looooong time, but I found out that bein...It took a looooong time, but I found out that being myself was a whole lot easier than being who I thought others wanted me to be. AND it made it clearer who my true friends are.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you came out of your cave!!Phyllis Renéehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07091511889201839807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5805517514331147214.post-44848377927253956062008-12-16T13:54:00.000-06:002008-12-16T13:54:00.000-06:00Your socialization has been amped by your involvem...Your socialization has been amped by your involvement and leadership in Agora. So much so that at times it has probably been uncomfortable. However, now you have friends who count on you. Not in an unhealthy way, but instead, in an I-love-you-let's-count-on-each-other kind of way. That's a really good thing.Jeffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05302139430600014873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5805517514331147214.post-66416103198371685702008-12-16T09:15:00.000-06:002008-12-16T09:15:00.000-06:00Yeah, I used to be a real introvert too. When ever...Yeah, I used to be a real introvert too. When everyone in high school would have parties or hang out, I'd run off to my computer and hack or play games until 3am or so.<BR/><BR/>I think you struck a real truism about letting our guard down; and I think a big part of that is really recognizing and accepting our own identity. <BR/><BR/>And for me personally, I also had to be willing to let my identity evolve. I think at first it was hard for me to accept any identity because it felt like I would be sticking myself into a mold, and then I'd be limiting myself. But at some point it struck me that I could accept my identity today and still strive to change it. That thought made me more comfortable with opening myself up to others, I think.lukehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04844724534003766952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5805517514331147214.post-48407968231453264182008-12-15T23:57:00.000-06:002008-12-15T23:57:00.000-06:00I can relate...I don't make eye contact either. I ...I can relate...I don't make eye contact either. I think it's because, at least for me, I'm afraid that the person will reject me or judge me and if I make eye contact I become vulnerable and they become real. So, it's easier and more or less painful, take your pick, if I just don't make the eye contact. Stinks don't it? :)<BR/><BR/>However, I hate being by myself for long periods of time! Strange how the world works.FHL_Alwayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15764679430186265792noreply@blogger.com