tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5805517514331147214.post7177291142289488797..comments2023-03-24T09:26:01.344-05:00Comments on Redheaded Tomes: Losing a FriendKristi Ostlerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08073529078605648826noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5805517514331147214.post-82722783012494068782009-11-11T15:16:21.701-06:002009-11-11T15:16:21.701-06:00It wasn't you Kimberly. Ha! It was someone e...It wasn't you Kimberly. Ha! It was someone else. :-) It was a well meant comment, but . . . well . . .I'll leave it at that. :-)Kristi Ostlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08073529078605648826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5805517514331147214.post-26954830799851141962009-11-11T14:14:28.795-06:002009-11-11T14:14:28.795-06:00Good for you. I understand how difficult it is to ...Good for you. I understand how difficult it is to draw that boundary. I have had to do the same in the past...and I'm sorry if I was that coworker who said that. It sounds like something I would say, being a recovering codependant myself. <br /><br />For the record, the "captcha" below, that I have to type in for security purposes says "uncoma" I thought that was interesting. Like, in your new awareness you are in an uncoma.Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13058006742190151482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5805517514331147214.post-33805678615712257832009-10-23T10:01:55.541-05:002009-10-23T10:01:55.541-05:00Sometimes people just need some time; but sometime...Sometimes people just need some time; but sometimes they're never the same person. A friend of ours is trying to start his life over - legally changed his name and everything. When he made his new boundaries, we were on the outside. But that's okay. Sometimes it's just what people need.<br /><br />I think you are loving as Jesus loved. People left Jesus over some of his boundaries - eating his flesh, or the rich young ruler, or any number of his controversial teachings and disciplines. But that doesn't mean he didn't love them. He was trying to show us how to love him, and how to love God, back.<br /><br />To love is to will the *good* of another - it's not just about wanting the other to be happy. A high school friend of ours dove into the typical drunken fraternity life in college. He was totally happy that way, but the lifestyle hindered his love back to us. We never heard from him, except when he asked my brother and I to join the fraternity to bring the house GPA back above probation levels! We loved him, yeah, but his desire had nothing to do with love.<br /><br />Unconditional love means we love no matter what, and it is the way God loves us. But He loves us in a certain way - an odd way that compels us to return our love for His love, or else run away from Him.<br /><br />I think you ARE loving your friend the way Jesus does. Hopefully your friend will stop running from it some day.lukehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04844724534003766952noreply@blogger.com